Homeschooling When You Can’t Get Out of Bed?

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The past three months (post-miscarriage) have been physically difficult for me. I won’t go into unnecessary details, but I spent many days so exhausted or uncomfortable that I was unable to get out bed. Some days I could barely lift my head from the pillow. It has been unlike any experience we’ve ever had.

What Happened to the OH Blog?

Unfortunately, I found myself in the position of having to prioritize what I was able to accomplish even on the days when I felt a little better. In priority, OH has to come behind my family and church and since I had difficulty keeping up on those responsibilities, I had forgo the “extras” I like to provide to support you in your homeschooling.

Thank you for your patience and understanding. One of the delightful things about helping homeschooling mothers is the encouragement and support I receive during difficult times. We received messages and notes of encouragement; families prayed for us. We didn’t receive one complaint. Thank you for making your family your priority and for understanding that my family is mine!

Four Hints to Manage in Difficult Times

How did we make it through? I couldn’t follow my organized OH plan the way I wanted, but the children were profitably occupied and continued learning and growing. Here are four hints I discovered:

  1. Be flexible. Changing the plan doesn’t mean you are a failure. It is a sign that you are reasonable in your expectations. “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not get bent out of shape.” Not Scripture, but a good principle.
  2. Delegate. Whether it’s getting a six-year-old to move laundry from the washer to the dryer or asking an older child to cook dinner, you must spread the load when your health won’t cooperate.
  3. Accept help. This one is a challenge for me. Family, church family, and friends will often jump in to help if they know we are struggling. That means answering the “How are you doing?” questions honestly. And, yes, having the church bring meals helped a lot.
  4. For lessons, use lots of audios. When children aren’t reading well independently, it is tempting to order a stack of workbooks for each child, just to keep them occupied and moving forward in their learning. Instead, the Lord brought to my mind many audio resources we own but haven’t used. Even if you haven’t built your audio library, there are many audio books available free on-line. Start looking at One day when I felt well, I made a list of resources, divided the resources by “subjects” and created a simple schedule similar to our read aloud schedule. After their “listening time,” the middle boys narrated to Steve, Lizzy, or me. No fill-in-the-blank necessary!

I’m excited to be “back in the land of the living,” as my mom would say. It’s been a rough couple of months, but by God’s grace, his people’s love, and a little creativity, we’re back to a more normal routine which means we’re here to help you in your Organic Homeschooling journey.

3 Responses to Homeschooling When You Can’t Get Out of Bed?
  1. Michelle says:

    I am so sorry about your loss! I too had a miscarriage this year. I too have 10 children. I feel like I have a lot in common with you. I had just started to enjoy your website, then there was a long time that you did not post. I began to pray for you and your family, hoping that nothing had happened, not knowing of your miscarriage. I am glad that you are doing better. May God give you peace, strength and joy! Michelle
    P.S. I am enjoying your articles in Every Thought Captive!

    • kara says:

      Thank you, Michelle. We do have a lot in common! I’m so glad you have joined us here. Thank you so much for your prayers. I am certain that it was the prayers of God’s people that kept my spirits up throughout this ordeal.

      Writing for ETC is a real privilege, although I confess that do not feel up to the task. Denise left some pretty big (godly) shoes that I know I will never be able to fill, but I’m glad the Lord is using my articles in your life.

  2. Susanna D says:

    So glad to have you back here, I checked every day to see if anything new was posted and just continued to pray for you all during the weeks when there was nothing new. We knew about the loss and prayed especially for your healing, physically and emotionally. God is so good and indeed has answered those prayers. It is always easy to look back and see what He has done, it is much more difficult to see it when you are in the throws of a difficulty. But I am blessed by the testimony you are living as you continue in this ministry and share your life and family with us OHers. Thank you!